7 months and counting | Single Life


I have moments where I reflect on things and for the past few months I keep thinking about the fact that I'm single. I'm only 20 but since I was 16 I've been in a relationship. And so this is the longest period of time I've been single.

(Have a picture of me feeling fab)

And that's quite scary. To think that from 16 to 20 I've always had someone there when I needed them. I've gone through some of the most fragile years and significant changes to myself as a person with someone by my side and now...I'm on my own.

And you know what? I couldn't be happier. I may still have my wobbly days and of course I still miss aspects of being in a relationship (sigh, I need a cuddle) but for the most part, I'm content. And I've realised something that has changed the way I look at my life.

I don't want to build a career and a life with someone else right now. I don't want to depend on someone else. I want to be independent and be able to support myself. And if I find someone who fits in with that then great. But if not, then that's okay too.

Someone I know has practically put his life on hold because he says he can't find the confidence to go out and chase down his career without a partner in his life. And to me that seems like an odd concept.

There are far too many people these days that stay with their partner because they don't know how to be on their own or they simply can't afford to live on their own. And that's sad. Staying together due to financial reasons is largely due to the economy we live in and that's an issue for another day. But staying together because you don't want to be alone is a whole other issue. We're far too dependant on other people and so when we find ourselves on our own, we don't know how to manage.

What do you think?
Are you happy being single or do you need a partner?

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  1. Both!
    I love my boyf, we're getting married soon!
    But I also loved my single days too. I felt..empowered.
    I lived alone, and I loved it. :)
    Sarah xxx